Three days
Vision April 4, 2011
Someone once told me, “You can do better. You deserve much more.” And truth be told, the person is right. But usually when we love, we love someone for who they are despite what they have done. It’s not so much about who we deserve, but who we want, who we need and who we love. That’s how love is.
- runawaytrain
ASHTON KUTCHER April 4, 2011
I was shooting a scene in my new film, No Strings Attached, in which I say to Natalie Portman,
“If you miss me. you can’t text, you can’t email, you can’t post it on my Facebook wall. If you really miss me, you come and see me.”
I began to think of all of the billions of intimate exchanges sent daily via fingers and screens, bouncing between satellites and servers. With all this texting, emailing, and social networking, I started wondering, are we all becoming so in touch with one another that we are in danger of losing touch?
It used to be that boy met girl and they exchanged phone numbers. Anticipation built. They imagined the entire relationship before a call ever happened. The phone rang. Hearts pounded. “Hello?” Followed by a conversation that lasted two hours but felt like two minutes and would be examined with friends for two weeks. If all went well, a date was arranged. That was then.
Now we exchange numbers but text instead of calling because it mitigates the risks of early failure and eliminates those deafening moments of silence. Now anticipation builds. Bdoop. “It was NICE meeting u” Both sides overanalyze every word. We talk to a friend, an impromptu Cyrano: “He wrote nice in all caps. What does that mean? What do I write back?” Then we write a response and delete it 10 times before sending a message that will appear 2 care, but not 2 much. If all goes well, a date will be arranged.
Whether you like it or not, the digital age has produced a new format for modern romance, and natural selection may be favoring the quick-thumbed quip peddler over the confident, ice-breaking alpha male. Or maybe we are hiding behind the cloak of digital text and spell-check to present superior versions of ourselves while using these less intimate forms of communication to accelerate the courting process. So what’s it really good for?
There is some argument about who actually invented text messaging, but I think it’s safe to say it was a man. Multiple studies have shown that the average man uses about half as many words per day as women, thus text messaging. It eliminates hellos and goodbyes and cuts right to the chase. Now, if that’s not male behavior, I don’t know what is. It’s also great for passing notes. there is something fun about sharing secrets with your date while in the company of others. think of texting as a modern whisper in your lover’s car.
Sending sweet nothings on Twitter or Facebook is also fun. in some ways, it’s no different than sending flowers to the office: You are declaring your love for everyone to see. Who doesn’t like to be publicly adored. Just remember that what you post is out there and there’s some stuff you can’t un-see.
But the reality is that we communicate with every part of our being, and there are times when we must use it all. When someone needs us, he or she needs all of us. There’s no text that can replace a loving touch when someone we love is hurting.
We haven’t lost romance in the digital age, but we may be neglecting it. In doing so, antiquated art forms are taking on new importance. The power of a hand-written letter is greater than ever. It’s personal and deliberate means more than an email or text ever will. It has a unique scent. It requires deciphering. But, most important, it’s flawed There are errors in handwriting, punctuation, grammar, and spelling that show our vulnerability. And vulnerability is the essence of romance. It’s the art of being uncalculated, the willingness to look foolish, the courage to say,
“This is me, and I’m interested in you enough to show you my flaws with the hope that you may embrace me for all that I am but, more importantly, all that I am not.”
- Ashton Kutcher
what’s happened here? January 24, 2011
5:39 AM
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I wondered tonight in a daze, why so many people fall in love, if 90% of the time (hehe my very own statistics based on what I see and hear, and know of course) they fall out of love eventually?
So many times, we’re risking ourselves, leaving our hearts on our sleeves only to find that in due time, we’d most probably be left aside again, alone fighting against the world. Why do we allow ourselves to go through the hassle time and time again when we know that we are merely fiddling with fate?
It’s no wonder so many people conceal their emotions and hearts off to the rest of the world and her opportunities when they get tired of being in the ‘dating game’ and losing all the time. I see my friends who stopped giving themselves and the world another chance because of one heartbreak, or one heartbreak after the other. It’s sad but kind of smart/logical at the same time doing that to protect themselves, don’t you think?
Being in love is great. More often that not it is fleeting, unless you are one of the rare minority who actually meets the “perfect one”/”other half” and walks down the aisle soon after. Otherwise, we are the ones treading on a path of imminent disaster, what with all the ignored phone calls, less attention, less time, less devotion, less appreciation, less love, less prioritized, less you-are-my-one-and-only yadda yadda… and eventually the breakup. What happens next is a seemingly never-ending list of tear-jerking emotions, along with sentimental and depressing days, weeks, months, perhaps even years. Oh and all these after going thru the 5 stages of breakup. You would realize you’re back on your feet, back on track… but really, are you? Apparently we get stuck in the same cycle where we get attached emotionally with someone new again. It’s totally crazy, insane, bonkers, loony. Why are we always allowing ourselves to enter these open doors of hurt, misery, pain, disappointment and torment (that could sometimes possibly last us a lifetime)?
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Then I realized something.
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It was the passion and intimacy that drives these people going and on for so long. Despite the greater possibility and likelihood that things might not work out between two people in the end, it is the process and the experience that has made it worthwhile; all that immense joy and craziness for each other, the ups and downs shared, the idea of devoting and committing to another being, the ability to accept another person with imperfections, the understanding that a person could actually love another more than he loves himself. It’s having to sleep and wake up to every passing day knowing you are safe and secured in the hands of another, that he or she will love you unconditionally in spite of your flaws and letdowns, and most of all, that this person is worth everything despite what comes later on (i.e.previously mentioned above) It is the amazing surprises, and its perplexities coming together, that beautifully forms an emotional bond between two special people in the universe.
This is what happens in the finite number of times you get into a love relationship right? (i hope yes) So regardless of how many times you have fallen in and out of love, it is alright. We are comforted by the solace that our dating/relationship experiences teach us what love’s definition is to each individual and the very fact that love itself is always growing and evolving, so we follow where it takes us… until we are brought to our final destination in life where our paths cross and ends with another’s.
My rationalization couldn’t have been more right, could they? Heh heh, how bizzare. -insert smiley-
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Scarlet letter December 8, 2010
Why, I wonder if you are heaven-sent. And I’ve got so much to look forward to when I think about you. You make everything so easy for me.
Likewise, I want to be someone you can rely on when things go wrong. I want to be someone you rely on when the chips are down.
I want to be there for you, thru sunshine and rain. And I hope my love will always be your armour of hope and strength.
Because for you, I will look towards the future and be strong.
Thank you sweetheart.
I love you.
Prom November 22, 2010
Exhausted. Dead beat. Tuckered oud. Kaput.
It would be the second most memorable day in secondary school life.
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Nobody knows true love. Impossible to define it. Let alone words to describe it. But I know Love is everlasting. It stays firm; it is true. You’d feel it, and you’d know you’ve found the best thing on earth.
I do hope one day you would feel it too..
Like I did.
And this is where we part ways and go forth from sixteen years. Till then.
Take care, bud. No more last chapters.
Capacity November 16, 2010
When I am strong, or feel like I can be strong, and indeed when I choose to,
I feel happy. And even stronger than the last time.
Happy is the soul that carries burdens but chooses to be buoyant and forwardlooking.
We are all capable of such tenacity. Too many of us just don’t know how to make use of it yet.
I could be a great psychiatrist. I love giving advice, and seeing people get stronger and better after that.
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I love my nails and hair a whole loaaaaaad. Just that the nail art is really ridiculously low quality cause within a short span of time today, the things got chipped off. Trying to find another way to stick them back, like supa glue perhaps? But I doubt I can remove them if I get sick later on leh. Hao? Any smart suggestions?
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I’m in a great mood today. Neva back down! Neva break down! Neva woebegone. Neva lamenting. Teheeeee
Bells r ringin November 6, 2010
Post-Os
Things I want to do:
- Donate my clean and green books for a good cause
- Eat and eat and keep eating everyday
- DEATHLY HALLOWS
- Awesum prom night
- Flea markets
- Get a pedicure/manicure
- Pierce my ears!! (been waiting for the chance to do this for years)
- Work @ SITEX 2010
- Fix my teabags
- Fix my face
- Fix my nose
- Work and get moolah (planned in advance yey
- Buy all the things I want
- Get a Makeover
- Shop till I drop
- Massage
- Spa
- TAYLOR SWIFTIES concert (6 days prior to my 17th bday and a gift from my pops)
- Bake and experiment with all types of pastry
- Exercise and lead a healthy lifestyle (at least I think about it eheh)
- Swim but NOT get a tan
- Bask in the sunlight but NOT get a tan
- Learn how to cycle two-wheels
- Skate and rolla blade
- Finish reading my novels and reread HP again
- Savour sushi
- Mahjong
- Give belated birthday gifts to people I owe haha
- Have naize long baths
- Do yoga
- Snap more peektures
- KBOX!!!!!!
- Grow taller
- Fleshier
- Macs delivery
- Watch my tv series!
- Greys Anatomy, HIMYM, Fam Guy, GG
- Catch up with One Piece
- Bake and write cards for Xmas
- More movies!
- Midnight suppers
- Chill with muh family and friends
- Play monopoly deal
- Housewarming
- Get out of Sultry Singapore!
- Run away with you
- Spend the nights under the stars
- Celebrate Xmas with all my loved ones
- Celebrate New year’s with you
And lastly,
- Spend all the remaining days, months and years that I have with you.
Aurevoir
