5:39 AM
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I wondered tonight in a daze, why so many people fall in love, if 90% of the time (hehe my very own statistics based on what I see and hear, and know of course) they fall out of love eventually?
So many times, we’re risking ourselves, leaving our hearts on our sleeves only to find that in due time, we’d most probably be left aside again, alone fighting against the world. Why do we allow ourselves to go through the hassle time and time again when we know that we are merely fiddling with fate?
It’s no wonder so many people conceal their emotions and hearts off to the rest of the world and her opportunities when they get tired of being in the ‘dating game’ and losing all the time. I see my friends who stopped giving themselves and the world another chance because of one heartbreak, or one heartbreak after the other. It’s sad but kind of smart/logical at the same time doing that to protect themselves, don’t you think?
Being in love is great. More often that not it is fleeting, unless you are one of the rare minority who actually meets the “perfect one”/”other half” and walks down the aisle soon after. Otherwise, we are the ones treading on a path of imminent disaster, what with all the ignored phone calls, less attention, less time, less devotion, less appreciation, less love, less prioritized, less you-are-my-one-and-only yadda yadda… and eventually the breakup. What happens next is a seemingly never-ending list of tear-jerking emotions, along with sentimental and depressing days, weeks, months, perhaps even years. Oh and all these after going thru the 5 stages of breakup. You would realize you’re back on your feet, back on track… but really, are you? Apparently we get stuck in the same cycle where we get attached emotionally with someone new again. It’s totally crazy, insane, bonkers, loony. Why are we always allowing ourselves to enter these open doors of hurt, misery, pain, disappointment and torment (that could sometimes possibly last us a lifetime)?
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Then I realized something.
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It was the passion and intimacy that drives these people going and on for so long. Despite the greater possibility and likelihood that things might not work out between two people in the end, it is the process and the experience that has made it worthwhile; all that immense joy and craziness for each other, the ups and downs shared, the idea of devoting and committing to another being, the ability to accept another person with imperfections, the understanding that a person could actually love another more than he loves himself. It’s having to sleep and wake up to every passing day knowing you are safe and secured in the hands of another, that he or she will love you unconditionally in spite of your flaws and letdowns, and most of all, that this person is worth everything despite what comes later on (i.e.previously mentioned above) It is the amazing surprises, and its perplexities coming together, that beautifully forms an emotional bond between two special people in the universe.
This is what happens in the finite number of times you get into a love relationship right? (i hope yes) So regardless of how many times you have fallen in and out of love, it is alright. We are comforted by the solace that our dating/relationship experiences teach us what love’s definition is to each individual and the very fact that love itself is always growing and evolving, so we follow where it takes us… until we are brought to our final destination in life where our paths cross and ends with another’s.
My rationalization couldn’t have been more right, could they? Heh heh, how bizzare. -insert smiley-
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